Sarah: You’re really good [at swing dancing]. I can’t believe I’ve never danced with you before.
Brad: Actually, you have…
Those words, for all intents and purposes, were the first words that Sarah and I ever spoke to each other. Let’s flash back a few years though. When I first started learning to swing dance (I was 20 and Sarah was 16), I saw this good looking blonde girl tearing up the dance floor and I asked a friend who she was. Her response: “that’s Sarah and she’s still in high school, if you touch her, I’ll kill you.” Knowing her age was enough to turn me away…for the time being.
In the swing dancing scene, if you’re new, it can be difficult to get the elite dancers to notice you. As far as Sarah was concerned, who was elite, I didn’t exist. I worked really hard on my dancing for a year and thought I was good enough to ask her to dance. It’s a random Tuesday in 2001 (I’m now 21 and Sarah is 17) at some local swing dancing club and I wanted to dance with someone at her level. I walked straight over to her, asked her to dance, and she nonchalantly obliged. It was a terrible experience that couldn’t be over soon enough. I don’t think she ever saw my face because she was looking down at my Chuck’s (Converse) the entire time. I thought she was stuck up and vowed to never make the mistake of asking her to dance again. In translation, my ego was a bit bruised…I know I know.
1 year later, it’s November 13th 2002 (I’m 22 and Sarah is 18), we’re at a club called TJ’s in Irvine, CA. Sarah and I caught each other’s eye. It would have been awkward to not ask her to dance, so I did. During the song, Sarah says to me, “You’re really good. I can’t believe I’ve never danced with you before.” My response: “Actually, you have.” Sarah was very embarrassed although I was being very light-hearted about it…I actually found it amusing and was chuckling. We ended up talking for the rest of the night, until the sun came up, in her white Jetta with a surfboard attached to the top. I couldn’t believe I had a chance with this smoking hot blonde God fearing surfer girl. She married me, she had my baby… and sometimes I still pinch myself.